Monday, 29 February 2016

Love Your Life: Creating Clarity, Purpose and Passion

How to Relax and Wind Down

How to Attract the Things We Want

Have you ever wondered why the things you wish for simply don't come true?

Have you wished for a better job or to meet Mr. or Mrs. Right, but instead you are still stuck with a job you are not very happy with and every guy or female you meet turns out to be far from what you wanted?

Does this sound familiar?

One possible explanation for this problem could be that your mind-set is getting in the way of you getting the things you want in just the way you want them. The mind is a very powerful tool that can either push or guide us to become successful or hold us back.

The Law of Belief

The Law of Belief is best explained by the following: "What we believe becomes reality." Once we change the way we think about how we act and the world around us, we can change our reality and also our own performance.

The Law of Belief is the key to happiness and success. Once we truly believe that we can become successful and accomplish what we want or have anything we want, we will have it in just that way. But if we don't truly believe, then we hold ourselves back and don't achieve what we want to achieve.

How many times have you wanted something, but it simply did not happen for you? It is our limiting beliefs that keep us from getting the things we want in just the way we want them. You may want to have something or have it in a certain way, but deep down you don't truly believe that you can attain it.

Henry Ford once said: "Whether you think you can or whether you think you can't, you're right."

In order for the Law of Belief to be effective, you must first know exactly what it is that you want in exactly the way you want it. Once you have a crystal-clear picture of what you want and truly believe that you can and will have it in just that way, you will slowly but surely manifest the things you truly want. But you must believe!

Many who try to apply the Law of Belief fail or give up too soon because just like everything else in life things take time to happen. If you don't continually reinforce your beliefs, you might end up giving up too soon. Being consistent and maintaining focus on your goals is possibly the greatest challenge you have to face. You have to maintain your faith and belief that things will change and that you will accomplish what you have set out to do even though setbacks and roadblocks are trying to prevent you from accomplishing your goals. The path to success and happiness is not always easy, but even obstacles can be seen as something positive because we can learn from our setbacks, and they allow us to grow as a person.

If you look back and think about all the obstacles you have had to face throughout your life, were they all truly bad, or did you learn from them, and did they help you make better choices the next time you faced the same obstacle?

Such obstacles make us who we are today. They help us grow as a person, and they guide us to make better decisions later in life. I believe that everything happens for a reason and that no matter what we have to go through in life, we all have a choice to continue moving forward or giving up at the first sign of trouble. If we choose to give up, we can never hope to reach our goals, but once we learn to persevere, we eventually create the reality we truly deserve.

In order to make the Law of Belief work in your favor, you must begin to believe. You must clearly understand what it is that you want to achieve and then decide what you have to do to accomplish your goals. You need to get into the habit of acting as if you had already accomplished these goals.

Our behavior influences our beliefs, and it helps manifest our desire, and all personal breakthroughs begin with a change in beliefs.

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Friday, 26 February 2016

Jack Canfield Success Tip #4 - Believe in Yourself

1 Simple Rule to Achieve Anything You Want

You have dreams, aspirations and goals, just thinking about it fills your eyes with hope and happiness; while day dreaming about the things you could achieve, your heart is crushed with sadness as you realize that all the things you want in life are far from your reach.

So many things are stopping you:
  • I don't have time 
  • I'm too busy
  • I'm not smart
  • I wasn't born rich
  • I can't afford it
  • I'm not good-looking
  • She's out of my league
  • He's just lucky, unlike me
  • I have to do something else first
  • My parents won't allow it
  • I don't know how
  • I only have one leg
  • That's too hard
  • It's impossible for me
  • I tried before, it didn't workout
Notice what the statements above all have in common

They're all excuses!

The reality is, you're stopping yourself from achieving the things you really want; Not your parents, not your looks, not your non-flattering achievements and not your grades in school.

So what is the best way to achieve anything you want?

The 1 simple rule to achieve anything you want is to GIVE YOURSELF NO EXCUSE.

Imagine yourself being teased by your friends to talk to your crush, but no matter how hard they try, you just wouldn't. Now, what happens if they suddenly lock you up in one room with your crush?

The two of you locked up in there with nothing else to do, your crush says "hey, what's up?"

And finally you talk to him/her; The two of you talk for hours, when you get out of the room, you realize you have so much in common that you end up going out and dating.

Silly example above, nonetheless true. What happened was that when cornered, you have no choice but to do that one thing you've always wanted. It may be as simple talking to someone you like, or something more challenging as becoming a doctor.

When you give yourself no excuse, These things happen:

Instead of coming up with excuses why you can't achieve something, you come up with plans on how to make it happen

Think about it for a moment, the last time you were cornered with no escape, how fast were you able to come up with a plan? When you give yourself no excuse, you put yourself into a corner with no choice but to attack head on.

You take action

Now that you don't have anything in mind to stop you. You go ahead and proceed with your plan to achieve whatever it is you want.

You learn

The achievement of dreams, goals and aspirations is a process. When you finally take action to make it happen, you learn how much work needs to be done, the time needed to complete it, and if the goal set is really for you.

You become

You did it, with no excuse, you come up with a plan, took action, fail and learn on some, and finally you've become what you always wanted to be.


Take 2 pieces of paper, write one goal of yours on top of the paper of both sheets. On one paper, write down all the reasons why you can't achieve your goal. On the other, write down possible actions on how you could make it happen.

Throw away the paper were you wrote down all your excuses.

Repeat with any goals.
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Jack Canfield Success Tip #3 - Believing It's Possible

Thursday, 25 February 2016

How Our Negative Beliefs Get in the Way of Achieving Big Things in Life

Our beliefs are formed by what we learned from our parents and what we have learned through personal
experiences. They even include things we have learned from others, and those beliefs become part of our identity. They can either help us move forward, or they can hold us back from seeing and fulfilling our true potential. We all have our own concept of the world. Your concept of the world, for example, is different from mine, but we all know how we see things and the way we feel about things. Every day we are being influenced by different entities, such as the media, friends, family, and even coworkers or strangers you meet in a coffee shop. We form our beliefs from what influences us, but it is up to each one of us to decide what beliefs we keep and what beliefs we allow to influence our every move. Our strongly held beliefs drive us to take action, and you have to choose the beliefs that challenge you and move you forward instead of holding you back.

All beliefs whether they are positive or negative exist for a reason. Some act as comfortable protective armor because they protect us from getting hurt. For example, let's say you have always had bad luck regarding relationships. Every guy you have met cheated on you, always lied to you, and maybe even treated you badly. Because of those experiences, you developed a negative mind-set concerning relationships, and it might be something like the following: "Every guy I meet turns out to be a loser. They all lie and cheat on me. No guy ever treats me right." Such thinking will keep you from ever meeting the right guy because you have already decided that the next guy you meet will be just like all these other guys. Even though such negative thinking will sabotage you from meeting the guy of your dreams, it also acts as a protective barrier because you already expect that something bad will happen. Accordingly, you won't allow yourself to let your guard down because the guy might not be the type of guy you expect. All these negative thoughts or beliefs take root on a subconscious level, and most people use limiting beliefs because it keeps them safe in their comfort zone. We have all done it!

Our actions today are influenced by interpretations we have made in the past, both positive and negative. Our most limiting beliefs about ourselves may get in the way of any actions we need to take to move forward and accomplish what we want to achieve. If we believe we are not smart enough to get that job we want so badly or that we are not pretty enough to meet our soul mate, then we basically give ourselves permission to not even try. If we believe that all men or women we meet or date are cheaters, liars, and simply no good, we will end up building that protective barrier around ourselves to protect us from getting hurt. Such limits may protect us, but in reality they are very limiting because they keep us from ever being in a happy relationship.

Anthony Robbins said: "Beliefs have the power to create and the power to destroy."

Our beliefs are what determine our life and the things we want. They create that reality. Who we are is based on our beliefs, and they determine our behavior, our feelings, and our thoughts.

The Subconscious Mind

The way our mind works is pretty simple. It consists of two parts: the conscious mind and the subconscious mind. Think of it as an iceberg where the top 10 percent that you see above the water is your conscious mind. The other 90 percent of the iceberg that's beneath the water, the part you can't see, is your subconscious mind. So which part do you think really drives our behavior? The subconscious. We all have certain beliefs about ourselves on a subconscious level that prevent us from achieving our potential. Any negative beliefs you have about yourself or your abilities act as an anchor that is holding you back from achieving certain things in life.

Our actions are controlled by our subconscious mind, and if our conscious mind is not in harmony with our belief system or our subconscious mind, our actions will not produce any results. The purpose of the subconscious mind is to keep us consistent with our identity and how we describe ourselves to others.

"We become what we say. We become our self-image, matching to our self-belief."

Negative/Limiting Beliefs

The mind is a very interesting entity and easily influenced. Did you know that we hurt ourselves just by our thoughts? Have you ever had a situation where on a subconscious level, not knowing that you are doing it, you talk yourself into having the worse pain ever or where you talk yourself into being too afraid of something that you decide not to do it after all? Our brain believes what we tell it. If we think pain, we get pain; if we think fear, we get fear. The root cause of limiting beliefs stems from a fear of failure or fear of rejection. You might wish for a better position where you are employed, but deep down you might fear that you won't live up to the expectations that come with the position. This type of limiting belief was formed with positive intentions to protect you from the pain that would come from failure and not being able to live up to expectations and perhaps even being fired. All our mind is trying to do is protect us from the pain and agony that come with failure, disappointment, or rejection.

Everything starts with a thought, and if we think bad thoughts, bad things happen, but if we think good thoughts, good things happen.

Having the proper mind-set where your beliefs are in sync with your conscious mind is especially important and affects many different aspects in life, including happiness, success, relationships, career, health, and even finances. If you truly want to live a more fulfilling life and accomplish anything you want, you must change your mind-set and truly believe in yourself and that you deserve to have whatever it is you desire in just the way you want it.

Doing this is the key to lifelong success and happiness.

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12 Signs That You Have Low Self-Esteem

Have you always felt like the victim of tragic events?

As if life has been so unfair and cruel to you when you never did anything wrong. You think to yourself that you deserve better, but you refuse change.

Dreaming of the day where you see yourself happy, being with someone you love, finding your own place and truly deserving this life.

It does make you smile. However, you could only live this life inside your head because at the end of the day, you feel there is no reason for you to live such a great life.

You think you don't deserve better and settle for less. Does it all sound familiar?

Here are 12 signs of low self-esteem

1. You don't have faith in yourself

Every time you think of a new idea or want to try something new, you believe that there's absolutely no way you can do it. It's impossible you say, but you wish that someday it might just happen. Someday though, means it's never happening.

2. You settle for less

There's always that something or someone you want, yet if you receive something that's not up to your standards, you take it and never aim for more. This is not necessarily a bad trait, but you might end up always settling for less. If you get into this habit and carry it over to your relationships, you'll end up getting abused.

3. You say yes even if you don't want to

Someone asked you out and you said yes because that's the polite thing to do even if you don't like to be with the said person. When somebody asked you to do a favor for him at the expense of your time, you said yes even if you shouldn't have. No matter how inconvenient for you, you just can't say no to people.

4. You're tired of everything

You find yourself feeling tired and saying how tired you are every single day. The funny thing is, you settle and don't even attempt to make any changes to your current state.

5. You can't move on from the past

Always talking about the past and how much better it was back in the day is your favorite hobby. Your friends, family and even strangers hear about your stories. Most of the time, this is you talking about your Ex.

6. You wish to be happy

Something is definitely wrong if you 'wish' to be happy instead of being one already. The accumulated baggage from the past is holding you back and clouding your vision to see that you can find happiness now if you only look ahead.

7. You know you're being taken advantage of, but you let them

This is what ends up happening after doing no. 2 and 3 of this list. You say yes not because you like it, but because you find it hard to say no and you settle for something so much less than you deserve. You end up getting abused and they keep doing it, hurting you, breaking you. You can escape however, and you choose not to, because you're already used to this kind of behavior and wouldn't know any other way of living.

8. You're afraid of change

Knowing that you deserve better, you're content with just imagining about it instead of doing something. You've become so accustomed to your current state that any thought of change is indeed frightening.

9. You don't care about the future

People as long as they are alive, look forward to the future. It gives them hope that someday, everything is going to be alright. Looking forward to something also let's us know that day by day, we get closer to our goals. But a person with low self-esteem does not see the future that way, you see tomorrow as another day to live awfully, and no one looks forward to an awful day.

10. Everyone's happiness come before your own

The way you'd put others happiness before your own is actually a good trait, but it only works if you end up being happy too. Someone with low self-esteem will put others happiness except his or her own. While you made everyone happy, you are content being unhappy.

11. You can't decide on your own

When it comes to decisions, you'd rather have others decide for you. This usually result in doing something you don't even like. But you'd rather have it this way than taking responsibility for your own decisions.

12. Death seems better

There will be those days that you feel nothing ever goes right and it never is going to get better. You're tired of it all and tomorrow will be the same. There's nothing to look forward to, you're unhappy, you're hoping for change but you've settled for less and when you look at your day to day situation, you see a pattern and believe it's never going to get better. With that in mind, death does sound like the better option.

I hope it never gets to this point, and if any of the above describes you or a friend of yours, it's time for change.

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Jack Canfield Success Tip #2 - Stop Settling for Less

Tuesday, 23 February 2016

5 Things You Can Do Right Now To Boost Self-Confidence

Boosting your self-confidence doesn't happen overnight. It takes a lot of practice, getting comfortable with rejections, being self-assured and mostly doing the right things that you feel good about. For a shy person, this isn't an easy task, it could take weeks or months to get into the habit of feeling confident about yourself, that's if you even try. Sadly, most people with low self-esteem wouldn't even try at all because of fear.

Good thing that there is a way to start building your self-confidence now. It doesn't take up much of your time nor should you fear any kind of rejection, you could literally do this right now and when you get into the habit of doing it daily, you're going to feel more confident than ever.
1. Stand tall

Fix your posture by rolling your shoulders back and down, pushing your chest out. Make sure your head is in line with your spine instead of forward like a rooster. Not only does this make you seem taller, you also portray a more confident and powerful image; Interestingly, it makes you feel one too.

2. Speak louder

When your voice is unheard, it feels as if you're powerless and no one listens to what you have to say. Easy fix, speak louder. Try to use more diaphragm than larynx when speaking, singers do this when singing a song, it gives them more power with their voice.

3. Speak with conviction

Comes with No. 2, when you speak, you have to be sure about what you said. Never in doubt, otherwise you come off as incompetent and uncertain. Speaking with conviction means that every word that comes out of your mouth, whether an opinion, truth or unproven, you firmly believe without a doubt that what you said was right.

4. Don't be sorry

Sometimes you'll be wrong, whether it was under circumstances or you have to apologize for a mistake. You need to stand firm with what you've said and done instead of sorry. What do I mean by this?

During a party, a friend of mine thought this guy who was talking to her was cute. The next day, this same guy apologizes to her and says "sorry about the things I said last night, I was high." That ultimately ruined his chances with this cute girl. Just like No. 3, when you say it, you have to mean it.

5. Walk as if you're the sexiest thing on Earth

Pick the sexiest song you like, put your headphones on and play it while walking. Notice that your stride is going to be a little different than usual, it gives you a little bit more swagger as you walk through the rhythm. Later on, even without music, you'll be carrying this swagger with you.

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Friday, 12 February 2016

New Year - New Life - #TonyRobbins

The 80-20 Principle by Richard Koch

I am STILL reading this book but love hearing about it from different people - and it's not that it's bad that I haven't finished it, I just think I'm getting so much out of it that I am busy getting the important 20% of things done in my life that are producing the best results!

And I keep falling asleep on the train when I normally read it(!).

Probably due to working late into the evenings watching all the videos I am posting, reading your Tweets, and generally learning myself.

Have a great Friday people, and concentrate on that 20%!


PS - You can grab yourself a copy here for those in the UK:

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Tuesday, 9 February 2016

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Friday, 5 February 2016

Self-Acceptance Course San Diego 6/7 February

The Experience

Self-Acceptance with Kelly McGonigal,PhD, Kristin Neff,PhD and Tami Simon
A Two-Day Intensive for the Brain, Body, and Heart

Is your inner critic the loudest voice in your mind? Do you find yourself dwelling on your shortcomings far more than your successes? Is it easier for you to extend kindness and forgiveness to others than to yourself?

If so, you’re not alone. Even after years of spiritual practice, self-improvement, or therapy, many of us still find self-acceptance to be the hardest challenge we face.

But there is a solution.

With Self-Acceptance: A Two-Day Intensive for the Brain, Body, and Heart, you’re invited to a weekend dedicated to helping you cultivate this essential quality for happiness and success. Hosted by Sounds True founder Tami Simon, this experiential workshop features two of today’s leading experts in this emerging area of study, Dr. Kristin Neff and Dr. Kelly McGonigal. Come together in a beautiful seaside setting to explore the latest scientific research on self-acceptance—and learn transformative practices for treating yourself with kindness, honesty, and love.


Self-Compassion: The proven power of being kind to yourself with Dr. Kristin Neff

With her breakout book Self-Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurity Behind, Dr. Kristin Neff shared the surprising findings of 15 years of research into the critical area of how we relate to ourselves. Perhaps her most valuable discovery was to define a clear difference between self-esteem and self-compassion. As Dr. Neff explains, “Many of our attempts to build self-esteem involve comparing ourselves to others—and can reinforce unwanted traits such as narcissism, a judgmental outlook, and deep insecurity.”

How is self-compassion different?

“Self-compassion involves treating ourselves kindly,” says Dr. Neff, “like we would a close friend we cared about. Rather than making global evaluations of ourselves as ‘good’ or ‘bad,’ self-compassion involves generating kindness toward ourselves as imperfect humans, and learning to be present with the inevitable struggles of life with greater ease.”

In this our first day together, Dr. Neff will spend the morning presenting theory and research on self-compassion, which a growing body of empirical literature has shown to be powerfully associated with psychological resilience.  Here you’ll learn:
  • What distinguishes genuine self-compassion as opposed to self-esteem or selfishness
  • Dispelling the myths around self-compassion, and re-examining the core beliefs that cause us to become our own worst enemy
  • Self-kindness, common humanity, and mindfulness—the three essential elements of authentic self-compassion
  • Why self-compassion is more powerful than self-criticism, and actually improves our inner drive and motivation to succeed
  • Skills for using self-compassion effectively in caregiving settings and avoiding caregiver burnout
  • Practical ways to integrate self-compassion in your personal and professional life
In the afternoon following Dr. Neff’s presentation, you’ll be guided into a direct practical experience of embodied self-compassion. Tami Simon, who is both Sounds True’s founder and a senior teacher of “Meditating with the Body,” teaches you that the key to internalizing self-acceptance is in learning to release tension, open to space, and be with your experience at the level of sensation. Tami will lead us in a practice session into the experience of inhabiting the totality of our soma—our felt experience—with unconditional kindness towards ourselves.

In the late afternoon, Tami and Dr. Kristin Neff engage in a conversation about everything we’ve learned and practiced over the course of the day. After their initial discussion, we’ll open the floor to your questions, so you can clarify your understanding of anything you found confusing and share your own experiences.


Self-Compassion in the Brain and Body with Dr. Kelly McGonigal

In her acclaimed book The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do to Get More of It, health psychologist and Stanford lecturer Dr. Kelly McGonigal revealed eye-opening evidence that self-forgiveness and self-compassion actually boost our willpower and discipline.

“I think the absolute basis of any type of change is self-compassion,” says Dr. McGonigal. “But that is not where most of us start. Most of us feel there is something fundamentally wrong or broken with who we are, and we look for some sort of strength inside of ourselves to correct, or fix, or even punish that part of ourselves. That almost always backfires.”

In the morning session of our second day, Dr. McGonigal shares the latest neuroscientific insights on self-compassion and how we can practically apply them in our lives. Together we will explore
  • How cultivating self-compassion can change the brain to disrupt old patterns and self-defeating habits of mind
  • How our inner critical voice can draw strength from the brain’s survival instincts—and what to do about it
  • Contemplative practices to instill self-acceptance and self-care
  • Using nonjudgmental awareness to develop an attitude of curiosity and acceptance towards every aspect of ourselves
  • Connecting to Your Future Self—an exercise scientifically demonstrated to transform negative emotions, support change, and help create a more resilient brain
This afternoon, Tami Simon will once again lead us in a guided practice session to reinforce Dr. McGonigal’s teachings at the level of the body. Tami shares key techniques for working with the mind-body connection to overcome the instinct to resist our experience—so we may open to lasting transformation in the way we treat ourselves.

In the late afternoon, Tami and Dr. McGonigal discuss the lessons of the weekend, then invite your responses and shared impressions in a final Q&A session.

A Life-Changing Intensive Workshop on Self-Acceptance

The latest research shows that self-acceptance is a “miracle ingredient” to many of our life challenges—and that instilling self-compassion enhances our health, happiness, relationships, and success.

Yet as much as we conceptually accept that it is best to be kind to ourselves, the real challenge comes when we try to embody such kindness, and overcome a lifetime of conditioning toward self-sabotaging patterns of thought.

Self-Acceptance: A Two-Day Intensive for the Brain, Body, and Heart is your chance to learn how to create lasting change—whether in your professional practice or your personal life. Join Dr. Kelly McGonigal, Dr. Kristin Neff, and Tami Simon for a weekend of scientific insights, practical techniques, and embodied experience to nurture the quality that can be most challenging—and most important—for creating the life we desire

Self-Acceptance: A Two-Day Intensive for the Brain, Body, and Heart will be held on-site at the beautiful Hilton Del Mar. We’re pleased to offer a special room rate for those seeking the full experience of a retreat into beauty and serenity—rooms are limited, so we recommend early reservation.

For more information visit and select "Events".